And something other thing, it is okay if you do not wish to be a single mom. I’m sure everybody else claims “Just have a young child on your own!” But it sounds like that is not the full life you desire, and that is really okay. (needless to say if it does appear advisable that you you, absolutely do it.) posted by DestinationUnknown at 1:04 PM on March 3, 2013 [1 favorite]
If i possibly could redirect after reading Philemon’s reaction:
You will find those that certainly will say which you may need to settle only a little. And yes, it will be possible that being an excessive amount of a perfectionist does get in many people’s means in terms of finding a mate.
But there is a significant difference between “settling” for an individual who’s got a profession that is slightly different the main one you’d always dreamed of (for example., providing within the concept of especially marrying a physician and considering somebody in another profession) and “settling” for some body that you are maybe not drawn to plus don’t love.
And Philemon, you are heard by me, however the OP is referring to “settling” for someone who this woman is perhaps maybe not interested in or perhaps is incompatible with, so we’re advising her never to do this when you look at the certain. posted by EmpressCallipygos at 3:53 PM on March 3, 2013 [5 favorites]
Wow, me personally. (really, you are solitary me personally. And probably future me, ’cause this gal is headed down a path into the aforementioned 10% statistic.) You are acutely conscious of wasting time. Which is obvious. I am unsure the feeling of urgency helps.
Know that a good love-at-first sight experience can very quickly degrade into an incident of moderate repulsion. Even hate. It may simply just take a call to your future-in-laws to work this away. Or perhaps you may realize it once you have said your vows. Yeah, you should steer clear of the ones that are mean and treat you defectively. Read More